On today’s episode, I get to sit down with my sweet friend, Christine Bliss. She’s a 100% SAHM. No side hustling, no part-time job, and guess what…she’s still a working mom.
I love her perspective on judging less and pursuing “mom dating”. Not familiar with mom dating? It’s the awkward fellow-mothers blind dating during our current digital era, and the courage to put yourself out there and make the first move in pursuing friendships.
I highly encourage you and your friends to give this episode a listen, and for y’all to get awkward and pursue “mom dating” in your community today!
“You don’t have to have a crazy background in business to start a business.”-Allison Ellsworth
Are you thinking of starting your own business? Not sure if you have something special?
Listen to Always Working Mom Podcast Ep. 4 with Allison Ellsworth from Mother Beverage. Allison shares her journey as an Entrepreneur, Shark Tank deal earner, and the mindset required to push through.
In addition, use this worksheet resource to help you identify what your value and mission is. You’ll need the right mindset to pursue entrepreneurship and this resource will help you start in the right direction. I know it did for me! Download now
Listen to the full episode on Apple Podcast or where ever you listen to your podcast shows.
Kevin Plank, founder of Under Armour, Inc, was a college football player with an apparel side-hustle. Yankee Candle was created by a teenage boy, Michael Kittredge, from his mother’s garage. Spanx was created by Sara Blakely while she was working full-time selling fax machines. Side-hustlers.
Yes, not all side-hustlers hit the level of business success of these founders, but a side-hustle is a great way to produce immediate additional income. Sara Jonas is a dear friend of mine that has inspired me, encouraged me, and I hope you’ll listen in on her Ep.3 on Creating Additional Income.
She has an inspiring story of how she has navigated life as a SAHM while pursuing a side-hustle that fulfilled past financial needs, and currently is a place of creative joy. Dream with us, and start thinking of out the box.
Pat Conner is a woman of wisdom, and she loves the Lord. She is so full of sage advice, and I have officially named myself her newest stalker. Stalker, in a good way…like share all that you know and teach me your ways, oh, wise one! You need to give this episode a listen, or two.
In under an hour she has showed me that we (yes, me included) have a bent towards judging other moms, and this judgmental society is fixated on putting other down to make ourselves feel better. Yikes! Pat has encouraged me, and I hope you too, to trade in our judgements for a phrase and action of support, “what you do is amazing! How can I help you?”. How wonderful our world would be if all mothers offered that phrase of encouragement and support, and in return accepted the help?! I want to live in that world, don’t you!
Her words of wisdom have given me several takeaways.
1. “Every mother works hard. Whether working in or out of the home, there is no end to the work.”
2. Our priority as mothers should be loving our children and knowing who they are. And pointing them to God, training them to love God with all their heart and to depend on Him. Let’s do quarterly heart checks on this together. How this looks for each mother will be different whether they work in or out of the house. “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.[b]5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” Deuteronomy 6:4-9
3. Allyson’s 3 important truths to teach: 1. Mother loves you with my whole heart! 2. God loves you and God is in control! 3. God WILL take care of you!
Hey friends! Thanks for joining me today. There is so much I want to share with y’all about what this podcast is all about, so let’s jump in before my ADD kicks in and I run down a rabbit hole.
I’m Vivian Knox, and I’ve been a career mom since the day my first child was born in 2011. Originally, I didn’t want to be a career mom, but because of student loan debt I needed to work at least part time until our debt was paid off. I’m extremely grateful that God provided me with the opportunity to keep the job that I had been working at before children and have the flexibility to cut back on my hours.
Fast forward from 2011 to now, I’m a career mom with 2 children, Caleb and Mila. Over the course of 4 years, which is a season of what I like to refer to as “the Storm”, God changed my heart…slowly…and painfully …and I began to love being a working mom and pursuing a career. My heart had changed, and I was happy. My work family was a gift and my joy overflowed. My career experience was working in medical business management and I had been working with the same organization for almost 10 years.
Here’s where it’s going to get ugly and I’m embarrassed about it, but I need to be totally transparent with you. In January this past year, I was chatting with my friend and coworker, who is also a mom of 2 little kiddos and is actively pursuing a career. And I was complaining. Shocker. I was sharing my frustrations that I had to volunteer for a PTA board member because apparently all the SAHM were just too busy. EEeekkk. Now you know what a Diva I think I am. Here’s the deal, our elementary school had 2 positions still open on the PTA Board and they had been posting for what seemed to be forever requesting volunteers. So I volunteered and offered my precious non-existent free time to serve. In that moment I felt like Katniss, a courageous volunteer as tribute. I imagined all the moms raising their hands at me in tribute fashion offering their respect of such a grand and noble gesture I had made, all the while I was giving the SAHMs the side eye. My coworker and I had a good laugh while we complained about how we felt it should be up to the SAHMs to volunteer and do all the things…because you know…they have so much more free time than us career moms. We can just write the check. And we also laughed at the thought of what the SAHMs thought or were saying about us career moms.
I feel like going diarrhea just retelling this story…because I sound like such a B. Although it wasn’t until later that same day that God convicted me of how prideful and ridiculous I was being. Why do I think my time or calendar is more precious than a SAHM? Why is there such a divide amongst us moms? And the guilt of contributing to that spawned this vision and hope of what it might look like if moms, all moms, started to judge less and support more. So what, if we don’t sympathize or empathize with one another! We don’t have to! What we CAN do is listen. Hear each other out, and offer support. We don’t have to elevate ourselves to feel better…what if we pursued community over competition and support. Gosh, isn’t this what we should be doing in all the hot topics today? Race, Religion, and Politics. We can agree to disagree without being assholes about it. What would our world look like if we chose to listen to one another, and offered support and community instead of division and judgement?
And my motto on opinions is put your money where your mouth is, and your words into action, or just zip it, please. 😉 hahaha…put that on a coffee cup and t-shirt. hahaha
But really. In that moment I became passionate for change, and how could I be a part of that change. How can a silly, prideful, nobody career mom make a small impact for inclusion, kindness, community and support.
And so Always Working Mom was born through conversations with friends, and the realization that all moms, whether SAHMs, career moms, side hustlers, or whatever…yes, ALL Moms are working moms. Let’s start a movement to encourage moms everywhere to stop competing, stop judging, and start supporting one another.
For months now, I’ve sat and imaged what that would look like. Groups of neighbors and friends opening their friendship circles to include other moms that don’t look like them or work like them, and having this diverse friendship and support system.
I hope that you’ll join me in this movement! Every week this season I’ll be hanging out with my friends from all walks of life and sharing their stories to encourage you and help you. From an entrepreneur mom and Shark Tank deal earner to a grandmother with sage advice, we will sit together in hopes of sparking a movement in your community. Please join us by subscribing to this podcast and asking your friends to join our online community through Instagram and Facebook to connect and create a support system in your community. Together, we can make a difference for the better. So what do you say, are you ready to join our movement?