Motherhood: Racial Reconciliation

Motherhood: Racial Reconciliation

Image by Danielle Coke @ohhappydani

Racial reconciliation has been on my mind for awhile now. Back in January, I sat down with 3 of my mama friends to discuss motherhood and race for a podcast episode. Motherhood is hard, and it’s our job to have hard conversations in order to know better and do better. Our kids are needing us to lean into this.

My friends and I:

Toni – a Filipino woman raised in Africa

Krisler – a black woman raised in multiple states in America

Sarah – a white woman raised in Texas

me – a first generation born American woman, half Mexican, half Arab

Together we discuss how racism affects our conversations with people of a different race, how racism impacts our parenting, and how can we be a part of the solution to end racism.

Image by Danielle Coke @ohhappydani

I don’t know if I will see the end of racism in my lifetime, but I do know if we don’t enter the space of befriending those that are different than us, or don’t start having in-person conversations about race, then things won’t change.

Our children are so observant, and are excellent at mimicking our behavior. What are we doing to actively be agents of racial reconciliation? Listen to our conversation on Season 2, Episode 2, and then join us as we learn to know better and do better. Be The Bridge Nonprofit is a great place to start for more resources.

Image by Danielle Coke @ohhappydani
Episode 02. Motherhood Words of Wisdom

Episode 02. Motherhood Words of Wisdom

with Pat Conner and Vivian Knox

Pat Conner is a woman of wisdom, and she loves the Lord. She is so full of sage advice, and I have officially named myself her newest stalker. Stalker, in a good way…like share all that you know and teach me your ways, oh, wise one! You need to give this episode a listen, or two.

In under an hour she has showed me that we (yes, me included) have a bent towards judging other moms, and this judgmental society is fixated on putting other down to make ourselves feel better. Yikes! Pat has encouraged me, and I hope you too, to trade in our judgements for a phrase and action of support, “what you do is amazing! How can I help you?”. How wonderful our world would be if all mothers offered that phrase of encouragement and support, and in return accepted the help?! I want to live in that world, don’t you!

Her words of wisdom have given me several takeaways.

1. “Every mother works hard. Whether working in or out of the home, there is no end to the work.”

2. Our priority as mothers should be loving our children and knowing who they are. And pointing them to God, training them to love God with all their heart and to depend on Him. Let’s do quarterly heart checks on this together. How this looks for each mother will be different whether they work in or out of the house. “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.[b] You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” Deuteronomy 6:4-9

3. Allyson’s 3 important truths to teach: 1. Mother loves you with my whole heart! 2. God loves you and God is in control! 3. God WILL take care of you!

What has Pat taught you?

You can find more about Pat Conner at https://patconneronline.com

Listen to Episode 2 here, Motherhood Words of Wisdom with Pat Conner